Separation anxiety
Posted on September 25, 2007 in the Parenting, Stay At Home Dad category
It used to be that I was the only one what would get sad in the morning when Mary left for work. Partially because I know I miss her all day that she is gone and in part because I am disappointed that our plan failed. We had hoped to have her quit her job when Simon was born. Now we are intending that she quit by the beginning of the new year but problem is that recently Vincent, my 20 month old, has been showing more signs of separation anxiety when she leaves.
Even though he has been sad in the past if she had to go somewhere, now it is different. If he happens to be up in the morning when she leaves he will tell her “love you, buh-bye” and generally be OK with it. That is until she actually leaves the driveway. The then starts moping around and being melancholy for a while. He then finds a picture of her to carry around and talk to. “Hello, mommy,” he will say, occasionally giving it a snuggle. Sometimes he will run to the window to look for mommy pulling into the driveway or just ask where she is. I explain to him that she is at work and will be home later. I am pretty sure he understands because he concedes and goes about on his business. I find it amazing though - it seems like he has a very good understanding that mommy goes away during the day and knows she will be home later. But each morning when I see his face when she leaves just reminds me why we are so driven to make our business succeed so she can come home for good.
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